Saturday, March 28, 2020

Effective Pastoral Counseling


Effective Pastoral Counseling

by Bill Bagents

We appreciate the work of Jesus as Chief Shepherd and godly elders as shepherds under the His authority (1 Pet 5:1-5, Heb 13:17).  We mean no disrespect to those roles when we use the term “pastoral counseling.”  Broadly, pastoral counseling describes “people helping” in a religious context, practiced by those who are recognized on some level as spiritual leaders.  We don’t view the term as challenging biblical teaching or denying the special leadership roles described in the Bible. 

When we say “pastoral counseling,” we are not thinking clinically.  We are not picturing a counseling office with a licensed professional and diplomas hanging on the wall.  Rather, we’re picturing a person with a measure of love, wisdom, and spirituality seeking to help a friend (Acts 18:24-28, Gal 6:1-5, Phil 2:1-4 and 4:1-3, 2 Tim 2:1-7, Titus 2:1-8). 

Key #1: Love

Every service that flows from Jesus flows from love (Matt 22:36-40).  If it doesn’t flow from love, it doesn’t flow from Scripture or from God.  Love obligates us to help others in the name of Jesus. Love enables us to help others in the name of Christ. Love equips us to help others in the name of Christ.  When we choose Jesus, we choose love.  Love always tries; love always finds a way (1 Cor 13). It’s amazing to think of how strongly people are drawn to love.  When people know we love them, they’ll give us opportunity after opportunity to help.

Key #2: Listen

Love listens with heart, soul, mind, and strength.  The bulk of effective pastoral counseling is listening with love.  There’s an innate and powerful human need to be heard, valued, and understood.  Christian listening reminds people that God loves and listens.  Listening builds trust and respect.  Listening gives us context and understanding so that we can follow the First Rule of Counseling—Don’t Make It Worse.  Listening protects us and those we’re helping from dangerous assumptions and false assertions. 

The devil works powerfully through lies.  One of his major lies about listening is, “If you listen with attentive love, you have agreed with everything that you’re hearing.”  Listening isn’t agreeing or approving. Rather listening is loving, learning, and seeking to understand how to be of help.  Think of the three categories of struggling people listed in 1 Thessalonians 5:14. Each group has a notably different need.  Without effective listening, we could find ourselves categorically wrong and doing great harm.  Imagine the folly of upholding the unruly and failing to lend strength to the weak!

Key #3: Limit Your Expectations

The devil loves to misuse Scripture and logic; “Love obligates us to help others. If we try to help and it doesn’t work, then we have failed God.”  People can be amazingly resistant to help, even the best of help.  God tried to help Cain, but Cain still committed murder (Gen 4). Jesus loved and tried to help the rich young ruler, but he left Him sorrowful (Mark 10:17-22). Faithful, loving effort, not visible success, must be our standard for effective pastoral counseling.


Saturday, March 14, 2020

Convert a Friend – The Romans Approach


Convert a Friend – The Romans Approach

by Joel Stephen Williams

Since 1972 in home Bible studies I have primarily used the book of Romans to study with other people. I simply take a pen, a blank piece of paper, and that person’s Bible and teach that person part of Romans. There are several advantages to using the Romans method.

First, it is not necessary to flip around all over the Bible hunting for a verse here and a verse there. You will not embarrass prospective converts if they do not know the location of the books of the Bible very well. Once you get to Romans, you can stay there for the whole study.

Second, teaching someone the gospel by way of Romans is like an expository sermon. You are studying the Bible the way it was written. The Bible was not written as a collection of one-liners like Webster’s Dictionary. With the Romans method, one is studying themes as they were developed by an inspired apostle.

Third, Paul’s presentation of the gospel in the first half of Romans is so clear that the message rings through loud and clear. Paul had never been to Rome. While he was somewhat familiar with the church there and knew some of the Christians in Rome, Paul did not start the church in Rome. He was not trying to “put out fires” there, as he was having to do at places like Corinth. Paul did not have to deal with a long list of problems in Rome in these chapters. Although he touched on some of the issues common to the church of his day that would be relevant to those in Rome, the chief focus of his epistle to the Romans was the story of salvation in Jesus Christ. That makes the first few chapters of Romans a great place to go to teach a non-Christian about God’s eternal plan for saving mankind.

Here, then, is a brief outline from Romans by which you can teach another person. In my studies I typically only use the verses that are in bold font unless a question is asked that requires another reading.

  1. The problem of mankind’s sin (Romans 3:10, 23; 6:23a).
  2. We are lost and unable to save ourselves (Romans 5:6).
  3. Christ paid our sin debt. He received our wages of sin on the cross. He purchased salvation with his blood (Romans 3:24–25; 5:6-10; 6:23b). God was being both loving (by forgiving and saving us) and holy/just/righteous (by atoning for sin — in the Lamb of God, Jesus, who was the substitute for us on the cross). See the chart below on God’s attributes and corresponding actions which are “united” in the cross.
  4. We receive the salvation Jesus accomplished by way of faith. It (salvation) is a gift, not something we have earned (Romans 4:2–8).
  5. Salvation is by, through, and “in” Christ (Romans 3:24; 5:1, 9–10).
  6. We are united with Christ by making our faith active when we repent and obey, including confession and baptism. We are baptized “into” Christ, and salvation is “in” him (Romans 6:3–6; 10:9–10). See the chart below on being “separated” versus being “in” Christ.
  7. After baptism we should live a faithful Christian life of obedience to his will (Romans 6:8–4).

Please save this information and pursue an opportunity to study with your friends. If they accept this good news (Rom. 1:16; 10:9–10) about Jesus, close the study with the question: “Then are you ready to go to the church building right now and be baptized into Christ?”



  “separated” from
     or “without”        
        Christ       “into”       “in” Christ
    Eph. 2:12      Rom. 6:3        Eph. 1:3



This article, now slightly lengthened, was originally published in the author's church bulletin well over a quarter of a century ago and republished in Bulletin Digest (October 1993): 6. 

Wednesday, March 11, 2020

The Minister's Devotional Life


The Minister's Devotional Life

by Joel Stephen Williams

According to Robert Yule “The ministry is a demanding occupation; it requires deep spiritual resources to sustain and enrich it. Such resources can be at least partially, acquired through prayer. Yet there is today possibly no part of a minister's life that is less cultivated for want of practical guidance, or more quickly abandoned for lack of time, than this. How can we sustain a regular discipline of prayer, so that our ministry might be a genuine work of God and not just a feverish round of well-intentioned but sometimes fruitless activity?” (Robert M. Yule, "Recent Writing on Christian Spirituality,” Scottish Journal of Theology 28 [1975]: 588).


A Spiritual Need Among Ministers

This problem is a common one faced by many ministers. The private devotional life of a minister is often either empty or nonexistent. While preachers attempt to achieve greater expertise in Bible knowledge and in professional skills in order to perform their roles better, at the same time they often feel a certain void of spirituality. Beyond simple confessions of a lack of spirituality among ministers, there are other symptoms of the problem on a wider scale in the religious community. The charismatic movement might be seen as a sign of an unmet need in Christendom. Likewise, the great influence of the Eastern religions into the West in recent years is a symptom of a void in spirituality. Here the contemplative ideal is usually being sought after more than an actual religious doctrine. Furthermore, the general unrest and frequent, experimentation in worship and liturgy might be an indication of a need for more meaningful religious experiences. One, though, does not have to spend much time searching for evidence of the problem; a simple survey reveals that the private devotional life of the “typical” minister is not what it should be.


A Brief Historical Perspective

In tracing the origin of the problem from a very broad historical perspective, one might begin with the great surge in monastic life in the early fourth century. This was no coincidence; it happened just as the state made its peace with the church. It was no longer difficult to be a Christian, rather, it became the fashionable thing to do. The church grew in numbers and also grew in worldliness. Many, no longer having the path of the martyr to follow, chose the hard life of ascetism or the contemplative ideal. Centuries later in Protestantism there was a separation from Rome along with a rejection of orders, monasticism, rules, vows, celibacy, and most of what was associated with it. The separation between the active and contemplative life ended, and an attempt was made to praise godly living in various secular roles. Before this time, any manner of life other than monasticism was considered a lower form or a second state of piety.

Uniting the active and the contemplative life has been difficult in Protestantism; and, according to some, there has been an inability to develop an adequate theology of the spiritual life at all. So, while Protestantism has been strongly anti-Catholic in theological attitude, it always seems allured by the contemplative found in Catholicism. More recent trends have complicated this situation. Skepticism is more common, and skeptical thoughts about God will cut deep into the taproot of spirituality, since prayer is based upon a belief in God and his actions in this world. Also, the continued secularization of 20th century mankind is an increasingly difficult deterrent in developing spirituality.

Whatever the cause, the absence of an adequate devotional aspect in the minister's life has brought forth many articles suggesting ways of recovering this missing element. Some, laying the blame upon educational institutions for ministers, claim the solution is to be found in training in spirituality while ministers are in school. Others object that such schools are designed only for academic study and argue that ministers must have their spirituality before they come to school. What suggestions, though, can be made to help ministers obtain better devotional lives?


Improving One's Devotional Life

First, ministers will have to arrange their schedules to even find time for a devotional life. The circumstances of today and the many pressing duties of a typical minister often leave no time for the development of spirituality. One study done in 1968 concluded that the pressure of time was among the most important factors that hindered a minister's spiritual growth.

Second, having a place to which one can retreat is very important. If the minister's study is on the first floor of the church building with ringing phones, busy typewriters, and noisy printing presses, then a minister needs another place or time at which one can retire to commune with God. A private' place is needed since such experiences need to be authentic, not just for show.

Third, a minister must concentrate on developing a better prayer life. One must examine beliefs about God, providence, and prayer. It is necessary to believe not just in God, but also in a God who cares, who is sovereign, and who intervenes. If one believes that nothing happens in prayer beyond character changes in the person praying, prayer life will be shallow. Even so, developing an adequate prayer life can be difficult.

One important element of the minister's private prayer life that merits special attention is intercessory prayer. Eugene Bradford reminds us that intercessory prayer is a ministerial task and summarizes the abundant biblical data on the subject. In intercessory prayer there is a link forged between the contemplative life and the active life A minister can keep a prayer list or a church directory at hand for intercessory prayer.

Fourth, a minister should develop a system of regular reading from the Bible and devotional literature of the ages. Numerous collections for this purpose such as John Baillie's, A Diary of Readings, are very useful. In such reading the minister should avoid the constant temptation of thinking only in terms of next Sunday's sermon or Bible class. Though such devotional reading will influence the content of one's preaching, it should be thought of as an addition to the regular study done for teaching purposes.

Fifth, other exercises such as fasting might be incorporated into a minister's private life. Jesus, though not considered an ascetic in the normal sense, did fast for forty days on one occasion. He did this in the privacy of the desert. Likewise, privacy for the minister is needed to avoid hypocrisy or religion for show.

Sixth, the devotional life of the minister must be integrated with practice. Compartmentalization of life or world escapism is not desirable. Withdrawal and involvement must be held in tension. Unless a minister integrates private devotional life with service for others, a feeling of futility and uselessness will probably overcome such activities.

The outward form is not extremely important in structuring one's own devotional life. The inner content is what really matters. Fads and trends come and go, but the core of the devotional life remains the same.


Concluding Thoughts

A final warning is sounded by many who are deeply involved in a contemplative life. One should not expect extraordinary experiences; one will go through spells of dryness or apathy, even hatred or contempt for the devotional life. Shallow enthusiasm can lead to many broken resolutions, but simply quitting in despair can keep us off the road to God as much as gross, carnal sins. Being aware of the dangers and pitfalls, with perseverance and faith, ministers can develop a private devotional life which will greatly increase their affection for God and regularly enhance their ministry to others.

Originally published in Firm Foundation (2 March 1982): 134.

Tuesday, March 10, 2020

The Minister's Moral and Spiritual Integrity

The Minister’s Moral and Spiritual Integrity

by Joel Stephen Williams

In a 2019 Gallup poll once again nurses were rated highest out of twenty-two professions with an approval rating of 85% for their honesty and ethical standards (R J Reinhart, “Nurses Continue to Rate Highest in Honesty, Ethics,” Gallup, 6 January 2020. https://news.gallup.com/poll/274673/nurses-continue-rate-highest-honesty-ethics.aspx). Engineers, other medical professions, police officers, and college teachers were ranked behind nurses but before “ministers” who were tenth with a 40% rating. The decline of respect for ministers among Americans has been a notable trend for many years in this Gallup poll. Moral failure and greed by some high-profile ministers may have contributed to this decline. How should we respond to this problem?

According to a major survey conducted by The Association of Theological Schools, people judge the work of ministers primarily in three ways and in the following order (Daniel O. Aleshire, Earthen Vessels, Eerdmans, 2008, 31):

   (1) Do they truly love God?
   (2) Do they relate with care and integrity to human beings?
   (3) Do they have the knowledge and skills that the job requires?

Lacking professional expertise in certain skills does not automatically doom to failure a minister who is a humble, spiritual servant who truly loves God and who is known for honesty and integrity. But a minister who is an orator in the pulpit, a Bible scholar, and highly skilled in many other areas will most likely face ruin if that minister is known to be a malicious bully, an unfaithful marriage partner, or a spiritual phony. Moral and spiritual integrity are essential for authentic ministry.


The Apostle Paul on Moral and Spiritual Integrity

God’s mercy and patience led Paul into “service” or “ministry” (diakonia) (1 Tim 1:12–17; 2:3–7; 2 Tim 1:8–14). God’s grace teaches us “to renounce impiety and worldly passions” and “to live lives that are self-controlled, upright and godly” (Titus 2:11–14). Paul admonished the young minister Timothy to have “faith and a good conscience” (1 Tim 1:19). He was to practice “godliness” (1 Tim 4:7–8) and to “pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance, gentleness” (1 Tim 6:11; 2 Tim. 2:22), but especially “love” (1 Tim 4:12; 6:11; 2 Tim 1:7, 13; 2:22). Titus was to be a “model of good works” and Timothy was to “set the believers an example in speech and conduct, in love, in faith, in purity” (Titus 2:7; 1 Tim 4:12). Paul taught Timothy and Titus about moral responsibilities similar to the household codes in his other letters (1 Tim 2:1–15; 5:3–16; Titus 2:1–10; Eph 5:22–6:9; Col 3:18–4:1). The pure and godly lives of Timothy and Titus helped to authenticate the genuineness of their ministry with its sober task of guarding the gospel message and teaching it to others (1 Tim 4:6–8; 5:1–2; 6:20; 2 Tim 1:13–14; 2:2, 22; Titus 2:1–15). If ministers follow biblical teaching like Paul gave Timothy and Titus, with God’s help they will progress in moral and spiritual integrity.